How Willing Are You to Let Go Of Your Judgements?
I once had an employee who was stealing from me. I felt very hurt about it as I had been very kind and generous with her. What should I do about it? I could confront her, fire her or simply meditate on her. At that time I was doing the meditations from A Course in Miracles (which you can download for free here) and I decided to meditate on her.
I closed my eyes and thought about her. She slowly drifted into my mind’s eye until I could see her very clearly. Suddenly I saw her as if for the first time. And in this vision she was as clean, pure and innocent as a newborn babe. I knew in that moment that what I saw was her real God-given self and it was a self that I felt unconditional love for. Later, I confronted her but it was no longer with a feeling judgement but with a feeling forgiveness and unconditional love. We made amends and the slate was wiped clean because I had gotten a glimpse of her real nature and the pain in her life that had caused her to steal from me in the first place. That was many years ago and to this day I hold her like a dear friend.
Judgements bind us to dualism and therefore the physical plane, where there are so many things that are hard to let go of. This starts with small things that we judge as good or bad including preferences for certain foods, friends and people. But are these preferences and judgements holding you back from your spiritual journey?
It’s hard to let go of judgements when we hold onto so many likes and dislikes? We must wonder if the things we think are bad or the things we dislike are equally worthy of existing and equally worthy of love as those we are attached to.
There is always a lesson to learn both from the good and the bad
Self-realization means being inclusive with everything that exists, both good and bad, in the knowledge that it has a reason for existing. Things we dislike may also be there for the sole purpose of helping us overcome that dislike. Though it is really hard to like our enemies or those who have wronged us, we must step out of ourselves and know that they were perhaps placed on our path exactly for the purpose of forgiving them and learning a lesson from them. Or perhaps like my old friend they needed the experience of being confronted and forgiven without judgement. I might have also needed the experience of correcting her behavior with love and compassion instead of pain and disappointment.
MEDITATION FOR LETTING GO OF JUDGEMENTS:
Take 10 minutes, close your eyes and get comfortable. Visualize someone you hate, dislike or are resentful with. Hold that person in your mind’s eye. Send him or her the love and blessings you imagine the creator sends equally to all things and beings. Send him or her the love and blessings you wish for your best friends. Without judgements about that which you really don’t know, see him/her as simply a person–one of God’s creations. Envelope that person in a cloud of love, abundance and safety.
Even if you cannot forgive or love that person, send him/her all the blessings you would wish upon yourself.