What Happens to our Loved Ones after They Die?
I certainly don’t know! All I know is that one day they are there, talking laughing, eating or getting upset, and the next day they are gone. I also know that we are here now, talking, laughing, eating or getting upset and the next day we may also be gone.
So where do we go besides back to the earth or to ashes?
I recently read an article by Heather McLeod on Medium Digest about the brain fog we may undergo when our loved ones depart. She states it is reasonable for our brains to be in a fog and for our usual efficiency to be at a low ebb because we are in mourning.
This is especially true when we lose a loved one who was way too young to leave, as she lost her husband of 10 years and the father of her young child.
I personally have suffered the loss of my own daughter and know that the pain never goes away. Just knowing I’ll never see her smile again or see her planting and nurturing beautiful flowers around her house or inviting me to share food with her, brings tears to my eyes.
But I also think this has a lot to do with culture. We may think our culture has a strong religious base, which would prove comforting when one of our loved ones passes. But it may not always have an equally strong spiritual base which also teaches that the departed never really leaves but simply turns over a page in the book of life and continues on the other side.
In some cultures we place value on our life and all the things we do according to what we perceive with our five senses. But whatever is out of the range of our five senses often does not exist for us. We may say it exists because doctrine tells us it does, but we don’t have an unwavering sense of its reality. This makes death irreparable, and any whisper of it being otherwise is not to be trusted.
We don’t really claim a ‘knowing’ that death is on the other side of life.
THE DAY OF THE DEAD
The Day of the Dead is celebrated in Latin America as a way of manifesting that our dead are always with us because death is a part of life. On this day (which is often a three day celebration), there are parades and people dress up to honor the dead. They often wear masks or paint their faces to show that they are not only part of this life but also a part of what comes after life.
The Day of the Dead celebrates another vital aspect of life
On that day, food and drinks are laid out for the dead outside the family home. Music dance and special treats are also offered at the graveside where the family of the deceased gets together along with lots of candles and they tell stories about the departed.
These stories include anecdotes about the person and funny things they said or did during their lives. Lots of love, laughter, music and dance is given as a tribute to the deceased and as an invitation for them to remain close to the loved ones they left behind.
It is a way of reconciling life and death and letting our departed know we cherish them even though we cannot see, hear or feel them again as we generally were able to see, hear and feel them when they were alive. We know they have departed but we also know they are essentially on the other side of life. I believe they can still hear us and somehow are there when we need them to nurture and support us.
THREE HINTS THAT THEY REALLY DO WANT TO COMMUNICATE WITH US
SCENT: a scent is partially in the physical and partially in the spiritual world.
One can smell but cannot touch the smell itself. This makes it a viable medium of communication for those who have passed over. My granddaughter reported smelling the smoke from her deceased grandfather’s pipe and I smelled my daughter’s perfume coming in and out of my car during a long road trip. I felt she wanted to accompany me durning the trip.
SOUND: sounds are also partially in the physical and partially in the
spiritual world. They are a means of communication between ourselves and our loved ones. My husband heard his mother ask: “Where’s Dad?” after she had passed on.
TOUCH: touch is mostly of the physical world and it would be hard for the deceased to actually touch you but often they can do so through an insect, animal or object. After my daughter passed, I was walking in the forest and I invoked her to give me a sign she was still with me. I wanted her to make herself present in some way.
Almost immediately a dragonfly attached itself to my nose and would not let go. It stayed there for an unduly long time. I felt my daughter was letting me know she was there.
Souls who have passed can communicate with their loved ones in various ways like those mentioned above but other ways may work if we are open to receiving their communication.
Because animals and objects do not have the same type of cognitive powers we do, they may channel a better means for communication. As humans we are steeped in our own culture and belief system which by its very nature rejects what it cannot see, here, smell, taste or touch. We may also have rigid views about what happens or doesn’t happen after death.
The dragonfly was a perfect medium for my daughter to establish her presence.
I believe she was showing me the other side of life.